Love isn’t about you. Once it becomes about you, it ceases to be love. In the decades quest to redefine what is biologically merited, historically affirmed, and biblically taught, consequences will eventually ensue. For the last few years we are in a season of reaping what we have sown. The harvest is not good. Changing definitions will not change reality as truth still exists. This creates what we see today, people walking in darkness, loneliness, and destruction. There is hope, but we cannot ignore the consequences of where we are at.

Consequence #1: Friendship dies

In the feminism and love is love paradigm we lost friendship. It overly sexualizes and romanticizes what is a critical component of life. As Proverbs states “a man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.” This concept eludes us when viewed through a modern lens. Add to this the cynicism of our age, and we lose wisdom. Again, Proverbs states that “the sweetness of a friend comes from his earnest counsel.” Such good ‘ol boys clubs, while can be a tool of vice, often has been the companionship that saves a city.

Consequence #2: Happiness dies

Movements based on negativity or envy will only spawn bitterness. Over and over again I hear stories of those in said movements decrying the loss of love or the pain of emptiness. For such an affluent society with more permissiveness than any point in history, why so much misery, depression, drug abuse, and loneliness? As Proverbs states “evil comes to him who searches for it.” And it says “whoever troubles his own household will inherit the wind.” The underlying doctrine that pushes feminism and love is love leads to an emptiness so deep that only God can restore it. It is not freedom from tyranny but a trap of limbo.

Consequence #3: Masculinity dies

It is not a secret that there is a war on boys in modern education. It is not a secret that fatherlessness is a massive and still growing problem. It is not a secret that suicide rates for men are high. People are waking up to the question of “where have all the good man gone?” Proverbs states that “the glory of young men is their strength, but the splendor of old men is their gray hair.” Today this would be called toxic masculinity and mansplaining. Feminism and love is love crushes men like a submersible in the Atlantic Ocean.

Consequence #4: Childhood dies

The biggest price paid is the death of childhood. In eras gone by when the rallying cry for children was to be virtuous, we now say have it your way, be you. We make children pets as they are now an optional accessory to a couple, not a duty to carry on. This further paves the way to redefine what marriage is, or better said misdefine what marriage is. Children mirror us adults. Their destructiveness or apathy is because of our nihilistic destruction of society thrust upon them. Not that we care about them anyway. Proverbs states that “grandchildren are the crown of the aged, and the glory of children is their fathers.” Children are not an option, they are a responsibility we have a duty to take on.

Consequence #5: Humanity dies

More frequently there are statements about the need to reduce the human population. The irony is we actually need more not less people. Immigration not withstanding, many nations are simply dying because the birth rate is below replacement level. In recent years when people asked why they can’t find workers my response has simply been “we aborted them.” Proverbs says that “the discerning sets his face toward wisdom, but the eyes of a fool are on the ends of the earth.” How does this relate to feminism and love is love? It created a self focus that blinds people to the destruction of humanity itself, because love isn’t about you.

The Solution:

Proverbs states the problem and solution succinctly, “the fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction. Hear, my son, your father’s instruction, and forsake not your mother’s teaching, for they are a graceful garland for your head and pendants for your neck. My son, if sinners entice you, do not consent.” And to the foolish Proverb states “For in vain is a net spread in the sight of any bird, but these men lie in wait for their own blood; they set an ambush for their own lives.”

Build men and women of virtue. Cherish children. Glorify motherhood. Let father’s be heroes again. Recall and uplift the image of God that humanity is. Finally, realize that love is of God, and not about us. Love is a commitment to bring out the best in who God made a person to be. It is a responsibility to pass on to those who will carry on. That in the days of old, when our hearing is dull, and our hair gray, we hold the hand of our beloved and enjoy the sight of our grandchildren who play in the sun. This is way.